Sunday, April 30, 2017

In search of authentic politeness



“Alleluia! Alleluia!”
For decades, I have loved the repetition of this word. Liturgically, it only occurs during the period between Easter Sunday and Pentecost. The point of repeating the word “Alleluia” is to remind Christian believers that the Easter event – Christ’s resurrection – is such an overwhelming moment (i.e. because He rose from the dead, we have the opportunity to enter Heaven) that our joy should be impossible to explain without repeating “Praise the Lord” (a rough English translation of the Hebrew term). At the same time, I also wonder why this expression of joy shouldn’t be repeated throughout the year. I suppose it’s the flip side of my difficulty with the forty days of Lent – I simply don’t like the obligation to refrain from eating meat on Fridays. Yes, I understand the purpose of the practice – to remind me of the importance of Christ’s journey to Calvary – and the subsequent joy I should experience at His resurrection; but I find myself becoming impatient with a liturgical period which requires that I have to wait for the better part of six weeks before I can celebrate something every Christian takes for granted.
In a sense, I realize that the whole point of the liturgical cycle of the Church is to remind us of the need to stay faithful to Gospel imperatives – and I certainly recognize that I need reminding – but I struggle with the notion that penitential practices (like not eating meat on Fridays) will get me closer to the achievement of this ideal. So, imagine my surprise, when I came across a column by Jesuit, John Conley in the most recent issue of America Magazine (https://www.americamagazine.org/politics-society/2017/04/19/politeness-forgotten-virtue) in which he offers an outstanding defense of the role politeness should play in the social arena.  Okay – wait for it – how does this line up with my annual gripe about Lent and Easter? Here’s the thing – we repeat the word “Alleluia” because we believe that the Easter event transformed the world we experience…but the world we experience consistently disappoints us…leading to the obvious question – how do we reconcile the excitement of Easter with the facts of what we will face tomorrow? Father Conley’s column helps me to face that conundrum. Here’s his take on the day-to-day dilemma we all confront:

Behind all the gestures of politeness lies a fundamental respect for the dignity of other persons. A mature moral agent does not use language or gestures that insult another person. One can vigorously disagree with another person’s positions. One cannot demean the person himself or herself.

And that’s my problem with the world we – and the students entrusted to our care – occupy. Disagreements no longer represent differing views of the world. They have become fundamental road blocks to how we talk to others who don’t share our perspective. It has taken me a long time to get to the point, but the philosopher, Stephen Hayner said it best (for me):

“I believe in objective truth, but I hold lightly to our ability to perceive truth.”

There can be no question for an educator – or a parent – that the search for objective truth must be paramount; but I challenge each of us to define the concept in advance. At La Salle, we expect students to suspend disbelief in the search for Truth. More importantly, we expect them to recognize that the search for Truth is an ongoing experience that will take the rest of their lives.

And, for me, that’s the point of repeating “Alleluia.” Christians rejoice because the Easter event made Hope possible. Yes, we are struggling through a difficult time…but when was it the case that we haven’t? We are all on a journey to Calvary – but we won’t experience the Easter event until after our time here comes to end…which helps me to appreciate Father Conley’s wisdom:

Politeness … respects the debt one owes to other persons for one’s own happiness and achievements. It is striking how many current television programs specialize in the glamorization of resentment. A procession of angry people unleash their criticism of their parents, their teachers or their doctors in front of a cajoling host. Where are the programs where we thank that patient parent or devoted teacher? Without gratitude, our soul shrivels and our civic life deteriorates into mutual recrimination. Authentic politeness springs from the gratitude we acknowledge for the gifts given us by other persons.

And for that, I say “Alleluia, Alleluia.”